Gay “rights” to marriage? All the legislation in the world cannot make this a genuine “right” – and we should not be unintelligent about this first step only in a highly destructive agenda.
Australian political commentator Bill Muehlenberg is brave enough to remind us that a society without transcendent values is on very shaky ground.
Which of course we now are – with the evidence all around us.
The following column by Bill Muehlenberg gives the lie to the happy-ever-after vision of children deprived of both a father and mother.
A New Stolen Generation
Children are being stolen away from the two most important people they will ever know – their own biological mother and father. When this happens by accident we rightly show pity for them and seek to get them into the closest thing to that situation.
Yet when we do it deliberately we call it “a lifestyle choice” and “diversity” and “tolerance”. The homosexual war against children may be one of the greatest outrages of this militant movement which cares for no one and nothing, but simply wants its own adult desires fulfilled – at any cost. Who gives a rip about the welfare of the child?
Nature designed the rearing and raising of children just one way: through a mum and dad. Yet those in sterile homosexual unions think they can ignore nature and the wellbeing of the child in order to fulfil their own selfish wants. And the children suffer big time in such situations.
In my recent book I discuss many such tragic cases and offer plenty of documentation on this. Consider these two stories from my book: One woman who was raised by lesbians now runs a support and recovery program for those coming out of the homosexual lifestyle and their families. She put it this way: “I realise that homosexuals feel they can give a child love and support that even many straight families can’t provide, but I’ve been there. I know the finger-pointing and the shame one carries. For years, you struggle with the thought that you might be a homosexual. People say ‘like mother, like daughter.’ Most of us become promiscuous to prove we’re straight.”
Another woman says this of her upbringing by two homosexuals: “From 40 years of experience, I can tell you that, even though my father loved me, his homosexual orientation handicapped my ability to learn to relate to life in a healthy way. My homosexual home stunted my growth as a person and as a woman, not to mention the damaging effect of 16 years of drugs and alcohol abuse on my early childhood development. I spent the first 20 years of my life in a family that nearly destroyed me and the last 20 years analyzing and being analyzed in order to make sense of it.
“The bottom line is: I was dearly loved by my father. His love alone was not enough to give me the foundation that I needed to grow into a secure young woman…. My father and I have looked back through the past and discussed the issue of homosexual parenting. With great remorse, he agrees the homosexual lifestyle, no matter how conservative, is not healthy for children. My father and I agree: homosexuality and raising healthy children exclude each other.”
One woman has written an entire book about her life of abuse, confusion, turmoil and despair being raised in such a household. I have reviewed her important book here: www.billmuehlenberg.com/2009/10/25/a-review-of-out-from-under-the-impact-of-homosexual-parenting-by-dawn-stefanowicz/
And there are plenty more such stories which you will never hear in the mainstream media, but these are stories which nonetheless must be told far and wide. The militants and their cronies in the MSM will not dare to tell these truths, so I and others must do it instead.
Consider this heart-wrenching tale by Robert Oscar Lopez, “Growing Up With Two Moms: The Untold Children’s View”. You really must read this entire article, but let me offer a few snippets from it. He laments being raised in such an environment:
“I had no male figure at all to follow, and my mother and her partner were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers. As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others. Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily. Gay people who grew up in straight parents’ households may have struggled with their sexual orientation; but when it came to the vast social universe of adaptations not dealing with sexuality—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learning at home. Many gays don’t realize what a blessing it was to be reared in a traditional home.”
His journey was a rough one, especially because of how the militants operate: “In terms of sexuality, gays who grew up in traditional households benefited from at least seeing some kind of functional courtship rituals around them. I had no clue how to make myself attractive to girls. When I stepped outside of my mothers’ trailer, I was immediately tagged as an outcast because of my girlish mannerisms, funny clothes, lisp, and outlandishness. Not surprisingly, I left high school as a virgin, never having had a girlfriend, instead having gone to four proms as a wisecracking sidekick to girls who just wanted someone to chip in for a limousine.
“When I got to college, I set off everyone’s ‘gaydar’ and the campus LGBT group quickly descended upon me to tell me it was 100-percent certain I must be a homosexual. When I came out as bisexual, they told everyone I was lying and just wasn’t ready to come out of the closet as gay yet. Frightened and traumatized by my mother’s death, I dropped out of college in 1990 and fell in with what can only be called the gay underworld. Terrible things happened to me there.
“It was not until I was twenty-eight that I suddenly found myself in a relationship with a woman, through coincidences that shocked everyone who knew me and surprised even myself. I call myself bisexual because it would take several novels to explain how I ended up “straight” after almost thirty years as a gay man. I don’t feel like dealing with gay activists skewering me the way they go on search-and-destroy missions against ex-gays, ‘closet cases,’ or ‘homocons’.”
He is also well placed to discuss the recent war of words over the research conducted by Mark Regnerus, showing how children do indeed need a mother and a father. I discussed that story here: www.billmuehlenberg.com/2012/06/12/children-do-better-with-mother-and-father/
And for daring to publish his research, the thought police immediately sought to discredit him and hound him out of his job. I discuss the ugly backlash he received from the militants here: www.billmuehlenberg.com/2012/07/28/taking-a-stand-paying-the-price/
Says Lopez: “Regnerus’s study identified 248 adult children of parents who had same-sex romantic relationships. Offered a chance to provide frank responses with the hindsight of adulthood, they gave reports unfavorable to the gay marriage equality agenda. Yet the results are backed up by an important thing in life called common sense: Growing up different from other people is difficult and the difficulties raise the risk that children will develop maladjustments or self-medicate with alcohol and other dangerous behaviors. Each of those 248 is a human story, no doubt with many complexities.
“Like my story, these 248 people’s stories deserve to be told. The gay movement is doing everything it can to make sure that nobody hears them. But I care more about the stories than the numbers (especially as an English professor), and Regnerus stumbled unwittingly on a narrative treasure chest.
“So why the code of silence from LGBT leaders? I can only speculate from where I’m sitting. I cherish my mother’s memory, but I don’t mince words when talking about how hard it was to grow up in a gay household. Earlier studies examined children still living with their gay parents, so the kids were not at liberty to speak, governed as all children are by filial piety, guilt, and fear of losing their allowances. For trying to speak honestly, I’ve been squelched, literally, for decades.”
He concludes, “The children of same-sex couples have a tough road ahead of them—I know, because I have been there. The last thing we should do is make them feel guilty if the strain gets to them and they feel strange. We owe them, at the least, a dose of honesty. Thank you, Mark Regnerus, for taking the time to listen.”
And thank you Mr Lopez for taking the time to tell your story, and being willing to face the wrath and the hatred of the militant homosexual lobby. But truth must be told, and children must be protected. Both these things are not at all priorities for the militants, but for us, they rank very high indeed.